By Roger Philips, Owner and Operator of Fight Focused Concepts
In this case….. for this article, “that guy” is loosely defined as the guy that slows down the firing line due to needing to do things a little slower for safety reasons, is a little behind the rest of the class skill/speed wise, and who needs a little extra attention from the Instructor. This article is not geared towards the people who are simply unsafe and who refuse to change their ways. That is a whole other issue.
If you have ever found yourself being overly judgmental of somebody that you considered to be “that guy,” do yourself a favor and take a look at it from this angle.
Imagine that you have a loved one that has had a recent event in their life that has now made them very afraid and in need of quality help and training RIGHT NOW!
Imagine “that guy” being your mother, your son, your sister, your father, your wife….etc etc. Now imagine your loved ones in our classes doing whatever they need to do to make sure that they (and their loved ones) have a fighting chance against this new evil in their lives. Now imagine your loved ones being treated like second class citizens in their hour of deepest need.
I get people in my classes all of the time that have a story that only they and I know about. They are there for a very urgent reason and it is my job to bring them to a level of confidence, with an immediate ability to gunfight, as quickly as I can……..all while taking care of everyone else’s needs, the very best that I can. They may be a little behind the rest of the class, they may need a little extra attention. But if you are waiting on me or waiting on them, then you are not using your time wisely. You have your own stuff to work on! Don’t wait! Dig deep and work what you need to be working on! The mental aspect of the fight is deep, efficient body mechanics take work, and visualization helps solves problems. At the end of every firing drill we should all have something new that we want to work on and improve at. A lull on the firing line is a great place/time to get your head straight and take advantage of the next learning opportunity.
“Gun fighting is a thinking man’s game.” In the lectures before the drills we give you the mental aspect of the fight to work on inside of every drill. If you are sitting there waiting for a drill to start, you did not learn anything from the lecture. It is my belief that the true value of the courses occurs during the lectures and the subsequent drills are nothing more than putting the lectures to use inside of your live fire.
“This is not just about practicing skill sets, it is about ingraining the perfection of ruthless violence!”
When I am spending a couple of moments bringing somebody up to speed, work on getting your head right. The brain is the ultimate weapon, everything else is just a tool. Train the brain and the body will follow. If you are on the firing line and you feel that you are waiting on somebody……..the problem is not with the person who is getting a little extra attention…….the problem is with your lack of understanding on how to learn efficiently and effectively and with your lack of motivation to be working on what you should be working on.
The next time you are in a class and you begin to look around to try to figure out who is “that guy” be very careful about judging people who you know nothing about. I have a good friend that trains with me who is over 80 years old and his reason for training is the most honorable story you could ever hear. If you did not know his story and you were a little self-centered, you could easily label him incorrectly. The reality is that “as a man” you probably could not even hold a candle to him.
My job is to make each individual as deadly as they can possibly be. Inside of my courses you will learn a lot, shoot a lot, and work at a very good pace. If out of ignorance and arrogance, you cannot accept me treating each individual with the importance that it deserves…….then the problem just might be you.
Friends taking care of friends!
This is the very core of my safety philosophy and lecture. It is also the very core of making sure that there are no “that guy” attitudes inside of my courses. I put everyone in charge of making sure that their friends are safe. They look out for their friends (including me) and their friends look out for them. It is the ultimate of “The Pride” attitude. Every Pride member is informed what is expected from them. Every Pride member is informed what is the quickest way to be an outcast. Every Pride member knows exactly what it takes to be part of The Pride.
Let’s face it……..the biggest aspect of “that guy” comes down to safety. If you care enough about your friends, then your safety will be good. Once the safety portion of the “that guy” attitude is handled, it is much easier to pull together as a Pride that mutually supports each other. You all know me, I’m not talking about some kumbaya BS……..I am talking about fighters teaching fighters and fighters learning from fighters.
It is “The Pride” atmosphere that will allow the squared away, high-speed, low drag professional to learn the story of the newest/least experienced member of “The Pride.” That is the point where the negative connotation of “that guy” becomes the respect and admiration for “that guy.”